Me As The Authority 20 Years Ago
OK, so this isn’t a photo of Tim Gunn. I don’t want to get my ass sued by using his image without his permission. This is a photo taken during my time as a lecturer traveling throughout North America. Those big glasses add just the right air of authority, don’t they?
Like my time as a lecturer traveling throughout North America, one day I was in, the next day I was out.
I still have the outfit. If the Nehru jacket can make a hipster comeback, so can that career.
I shared yesterday that I’ve become Shredderella, joyously destroying the documents, mementos, and ephemera that come with over 60 years of living. And I’ve been considering a question that goes along with spring cleaning for lightworkers: “Are all of my friendships in line with my ongoing spiritual development?”
Friendships used to be for life. During this time of global spiritual expansion, friendships last for as long as they support everyone’s evolution. People who aren’t consciously doing the spiritual growth thing don’t always understand why calls aren’t being returned, why things suddenly feel weird, why there is no mo flow.
How do we decide which friendships are in and which friendships are out?
I have no idea how fashion maven Tim Gunn would answer a lightworker’s questions. I can, however, share Tim’s quotes on life. I used to watch Project Runway. Tim’s quotes are content rich. Tim seems to me like an authentically good human being. He cries real tears when he says goodbye to the designers he’s grown to love. Tim truly cares about helping other people, and Tim won’t shy away from sharing difficult truths. That’s what I believe lightworkers are here to do: helping others and sharing difficult truths. Keep reading and see if you agree that Tim just might be a lightworker in designer clothing.
And yes, all of the following answers are by Tim Gunn.
Talk to me, Tim:
Q: “Tim, I don’t feel heard by my friends. I speak from my heart when I talk with them, and it’s like I’m speaking to the wall. They don’t remember what I say and think it’s OK. What would you suggest I do?” A: “I don’t know if people have gotten ruder or if my tolerance level has declined.. You can be too rich and too thin, but you can never be too well read or too curious about the world.”
Q: “Thank you, Tim. That helps me a lot. What would you do about unconscious people? You know, those people who aren’t really present with us unless they need something?” A: “I am a stickler for good manners, and I believe that treating other people well is a lost art. In the workplace, at the dinner table, and walking down the street–we are confronted with choices on how to treat people nearly every waking moment. Over time these choices define who we are and whether we have a lot of friends and allies or none.”
Q: “This is great stuff, Tim. I have another question. I recently ran into my friend’s boyfriend. I don’t think he is a vibrational match for her. Truth be told, I think he just wants to take down her light. I thought maybe I was the problem, maybe he could sense that I don’t like him. So I smiled a big smile, looked him in the eyes, and asked him a question about his life. I was genuinely curious to learn more about him. He was out of there in two minutes. Didn’t even say goodbye to his girlfriend. Should I keep trying to make friends with him?” A: “You know people like this, right? People who are incapable of enjoying anything.”
Q: “Thanks again. Yeah, I thought that but didn’t want to judge him unfairly. What would you say about the person who criticizes how I do things? I didn’t ask her for feedback. I think she is being rude, and I can feel my energy being drained each time she criticizes me or turns what I say back on me. I’m thinking she may be an energy vampire. Is this ever a helpful thing, to criticize someone about something that doesn’t affect them?” A: “If someone doesn’t ask, you don’t have a moral obligation to say every thought that pops in your head.”
Q: “Tim, do you know how it is to be a lightworker? We traditionally take too much responsibility for things that aren’t our responsibility. We seem to value being nice over being authentic. How can we define our energetic boundaries in an effective, yet kind, way?” A: “This is one of the pitfalls of being nice: You end up overexerting yourself. That’s why one of the most important things to learn after you master good behavior is how to say no gracefully. It’s ultimately better for everyone, because you don’t burn out and wind up in a mental institution, making you no good to anyone at all.”
and finally…..
Q: “Tim, I believe my spirit has an agenda for my life that my ego keeps fighting. Please help me get out of this endless cycle. What would you suggest, my friend?” A: “Trying and achieving are two different things. Make it work!”
Namaste, Tim. And go, go, go!
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