Love Made The Difference for Mikayla Rose
Do you want to change the world?
A resident of my community stopped me today as I was heading out for a walk. We exchanged a little chitchat before he asked me how my preteen friend was faring eleven months after the sudden death of her father.
I’ve lost count of how many people in the community have asked me how she is faring. I tell them all I wish I’d have done as well as she’s doing nearly a year after the sudden death of my own father when I was just a few years older than she was.
I would have had a very different answer for these people earlier this year. She was in a very, very dark place. I’d offered to be there for her when her father passed, I’d shared with her I knew how it felt to be where she now was, and I wanted to help. She shut me out. She was shutting everyone out. I’d still kept in touch with her while giving her the space to be wherever she was in the grieving process. When I visited her and her mother, her eyes looked dead. She offered brief and flat responses to my offering to be there for her. Her mother and her family were doing all the right things for her while they were attempting to find their way through their own grief. My young friend’s shock and grief were very deep. I knew she was in big trouble.
A mutual friend, a woman who works as an intuitive, shared that she’d gotten a message that I needed to be more involved, that she was in big trouble, and that I had the unique life experiences and the unique skill set to be of great service to her in that moment. That’s all the incentive I needed to change what I was doing. I showered her with love. And she’s enjoying her life. As I write this, she’s at a gaming tournament several hundred miles away with her mother, a new friend, and her friend’s grandmother. She was so excited about finally meeting her new friend, who lives in the Midwest. Her beautiful eyes dance with joy these days. I am so happy for her!
What did I do to help her? If you click on the following link, you’ll hear my friend describe what it was that I did that helped her. Please understand, I’m not bragging. I’m sharing our interview to inspire you to get involved and stay involved when you see someone who is in big trouble. If I’d have had people give me what I needed when I went through a rapid series of deaths, losses and traumas in 2011, I am certain I’d never have had the stroke in 2012.
People said interesting things to me during my first year of adjusting to so many deaths and losses at once. One told me he’d only give me love and support for a brief period of time. Another told me I was having an ego-based reaction to a natural part of life, and I wasn’t handling it well. A third congratulated me on releasing so many. I understand these types of comments, and I received many more like them, reflect people who have learned to process life through their minds, not their hearts. I feel compassion for them. If they’d have received what they truly needed earlier in life, they might have been willing and able to give me the love and support I needed.
I learned a lot from going through all the deaths essentially alone and going through stroke recovery essentially alone. Because I deeply understood how love heals and neglect and abuse destroys, I was in a unique position to develop a supportive protocol the following year when my Laila was diagnosed with terminal cancer. That supportive protocol, the protocol I teach through my coaching and my blogging, helped to keep her with me for two more precious years.
Do you want to change the world? Don’t ask your neighbors how a bereaved young girl is doing. Get involved with someone who especially needs your love and support while they’re adjusting to a very different and very unexpected life.
I have told my young friend’s mother that her daughter is going to change the world. By telling her story, she’s already changing the world.
Not bad for a seventh grader.
“My father was happy when he was alive, and I know he is happy where he is now.” Mikayla Rose is a spiritually gifted seventh grader who suddenly lost her father eleven months ago. She is inspiring! Join us for Transforming Through Love Radio, “Love Lessons With Mikayla Rose and Sheryl Hirsch-Kramer.” Listening method: visit https://lnkd.in/drFZxQZ
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